If you compare yourself to others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
I caught myself losing focus of my purpose – inspiring others to make a difference in their lives physically, mentally, and spiritually. This happens from time to time and I’m totally aware of it.
I get caught up in the day-to-day grind and find myself stuck in a routine. Then I start thinking about what other people are doing, what they have that I don’t, or why some are accomplishing more than I am in such a short amount of time. I lead myself down a road of frustration which to me doesn’t make sense. But I believe everyone does this to themselves at some point in time.
We can get distracted by comparing ourselves with others. We may wonder:
- Why can’t I lose the weight?
- How can that person make more than I do? I work harder.
- Why can’t I be more popular like them?
- I wish I had their body.
The list can continue on. Maybe more questions and statements are happening in your mind right now.
It’s essential to get into the right mindset. We can’t become distracted by competition with others. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a competitive person. I don’t understand the thought process behind kids’ sports that don’t keep score because everyone is a winner. In real life there is always a winner and loser.
But the main person we must compete against is ourselves. If you don’t achieve your goals or find yourself living out your passion, there is only one person you can blame.
For a long time I’ve pointed fingers and blamed circumstance for my so called shortcomings but in all reality it was my perception of the situation. I was distracted by what was going on in my external world that my internal world became a distant place.
It wasn’t until I understood the consequences of constantly comparing myself with other people. No matter how much you want something, you will always come across someone who already has it or who is closer to accomplishing the goal than you are. Don’t worry about them. You need to focus on yourself and your purpose. When you compare yourself with others, you are going to find yourself in discouragement and frustration.
Not any more. Get your focus back on the right path and realize that you have so much to offer the world. You can’t waste your time and energy worrying about what other people are doing. Direct your energy towards what you want out of yourself. Constantly focusing on the competition you have with others can cause you to miss opportunities. You can become so fixated on what others are doing that you lose sight of what you should be doing.
This is still a thought I’ve been tossing around in my head. What do you think? Does comparing yourself with others motivate you or does it create discouragement and frustration? I’d be really interested in hearing your thoughts.