NOT Happy? It’s Your Fault.

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The Black Cloud

I want to throw something through the wall.  Not punch it.  That would just hurt.  Maybe if I had a sledge hammer I’d start a demolition service starting with my apartment.  I can visualize it right now.

I just deleted everything I wrote from this post because I felt a cloud of anger and frustration creep over me.  I felt it would be wrong of me to tell you if you aren’t happy, it’s your fault when I’m in a state of negativity.

But then, I looked back up at the title and I was quickly reminded.  NOT Happy? It’s your fault.

So, I started this post all over again and decided I should probably listen to myself.

As you all know, I don’t own a car and my main mode of transportation is a bike.  Well as I sat at my desk beginning to type out this thought I had at first, a loud sound jolted my heart as it went – PSSSSSSSS…..

What was that? Water spraying? Sprinklers outside my window?

No.

It was the tire to the bike.  The bike where nothing is around it or anyone on it.  I was like – Are you serious? It’s ok. I’ll go get another tube.

It was only 7PM.

There is a bike shop across the street, Don’s Bike Shop.  So just to make sure, I went online to check the hours.  This is where that cloud of negativity came over my head and lightning bolts came crashing down into my skull. The site said – Closed.

It was only 7PM on a Wednesday and the shop closed at 6PM.  Are you serious?

Son of a motherless goat! (If you’ve watched ‘The Three Amigos’, you’ll get it.)

That’s when I went back to my post and deleted all of it.  I vented to my dog Kona, who sat there listening to me.  He was probably thinking – I better get a treat for listening to your crap. He did.

Happiness is a Decision.

Think about this.

It’s a bright sunny-brisk day.  The kind of day where the sun feels good when it hits your skin. But when you step into the shade it turns cold.

Picture yourself now standing in the shade feeling cold, darkness, and not very comfortable.  In your mind one voice is saying – Br…Why is it so cold? This sucks.

The other voice is saying – Guess what genius? Step out into the sun.

No one is telling you to stay in the shade.  No one is holding you back.  It’s your choice.  Either be cold and miserable in shade, or step out and enjoy the warmth of the sun.

A Lesson From Peanuts

In an old Peanuts comic strip, Lucy tells her brother Linus, “Boy, do I feel crabby.”

Her little brother, Linus, responds, “Maybe I can be of help. Why don’t you just take my place in front of the TV and I will go fix you a nice snack? Sometimes we all need a little pampering to make us feel better.”

Then Linus brings her a sandwich, a few chocolate chip cookies and some milk. “Now, is there anything else I can get you? Is there anything I have not thought of?’ he asks.

“Yes, there’s one thing you have not thought of,” Lucy answers. Then she shouts, “I do not want to feel better!”

You do not have any control over the situations or events that take place in your life.  But what you do have control of is the meaning you give those situations. You decide how you are going to feel.  If you want to have a good day, then decide from the moment you wake up that today is going to be a good day.

I caught myself bound to ruin the rest of my night over a flat tire.  Yes, this means I have to walk tomorrow morning to work at 6AM.  But, I see it as time to exercise and listen to an audiobook I’ve been wanting to finish.  It means I have extra time to work on self discovery and personal growth.

Remember, your perception becomes your reality.  Linus tried his best to make his sister Lucy happy.  But she already made the decision that she didn’t want to feel better.

It’s your choice. You decide.

You can always step out in to the sun.

Mahalo. Aloha. A hui hou.