The first 6 days dealt with a lot of self reflection.
No on can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Today, I want to talk about Ho’omana which means empowerment. I heard a great TED talk by Amy Cuddy who spoke about how our body language shapes who we are. Those who don’t feel empowered, believe the negative things people say about them, and have low self-esteem can be easily spotted out by the way they stand, walk, and even sit.
The Ku Lifestyle, is about standing up tall, strong, and confident. People only feel inferior because they allow themselves to feel that way.
Lifting weights and exercise helped to empower me. When I felt unconfident talking to people or thought I wasn’t much of an academic person because people said I was stupid, the gym became the one place where I could feel confident. It was the one place that I didn’t care what people thought of me or if they were even watching me, I just focused on the weights. The gym became the only other place I felt I could be myself, the other being my home.
But from years of becoming a gym rat and wanting to always be in the gym, I found that I was able to take the things I’ve learned in the gym to the outside world.
When I walked in to the gym and I became a whole different person. But when I left, I went back to looking down at the ground and being that timid Hawaiian boy who was shame of who he was.
That’s why the first 6 days of the Voyage are important, because you get a lot of your inner thoughts out and deal with the negativity you hold inside. It’s something every needs to do, but many decide not too because they are scared.
The more I stripped away all of the negativity and self-doubt, the more I was able to transfer the way I felt in the gym to my everyday life. The gym is what empowered me to become more confident and to stand taller, to be Ku.
Part of living a Ku Life is to be actively strong and fit. Exercise is one of the most empowering things you can do. There has been times when I went through a training session that just kicked my ass. I was cussing throughout the workout and constantly told myself, This sucks! At the end of the workout, after the dust settled, I felt empowered because I saw that I could do it. That I could push myself through the pain and go beyond what I expected.
I’m not saying you have to become this crazy fitness addict and starting lifting weights. No. If that’s what you are in to, then awesome. If not and you just want to start living healthier and become more active, start going for a walk . I wrote an article about 10 Ways to an Active Lifestyle , and then Leo Baubata also wrote an awesome article called, 4 Simple Steps to Start the Exercise Habit .
Lastly, I wouldn’t admit it to my wife, especially because when we first met I told her I hated reading, but knowledge can empower you. In all honesty, I wasn’t a very good student. If I didn’t find any interest in something, I just didn’t pay attention to it which made things a bit hard for me.
But now, my library is filled with books and I’m always reading. We can also gain knowledge from the people around us, we can Nana i ke Kumu . By gaining knowledge, we become more confident.
Then again, as much knowledge as we have what good is it if we don’t use it. Bruce Lee once said, “Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do.”
It’s time to start empowering yourself. If there is something you enjoy doing, they go right ahead and do it. Write down all the things that bring you joy, happiness, and makes you feel alive and free. Make a list of all of these different activities and make sure you do at least one of them every day.
You will find that the more often you do the things that brings you confidence and joy, you will feel more empowered. As you become empowered, it becomes contagious to the people around you and everything you do.
Go back to Day 6
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