When you feel discontent or ungrateful is when you feel the most disappointed in yourself.
Over the past 5 days, I thought a lot of my past experiences, situations I feared, words that hurt me, thoughts I had of myself, and the idea that I wasn’t comfortable being my authentic self.
I’ve been training the Moanalua High School Football team for that past 2 months. It’s been a great time and I’m always excited to coach the team. But looking back on how I am now to who I was back then; shy, unconfident, filled with self-doubt, and discontent. I wouldn’t be able to do what I do, which is be a Coach.
You must be Ku, in order to strip all that negativity and pain away. It takes time and patience. But the best way to rid of the sorrow and pain, is Mahalo.
Mahalo is a word that is taken just as lightly when people say Aloha. Mahalo means thankfulness, appreciation, and grateful. When we think of the question, What are you grateful for? Many start thinking about what they have, materially.
In today’s society, it seems like people are chasing towards having that bigger house, newer car, bigger TV, and never satisfied with what they have. Every where we go, we see the ideas that the more we accumulate will lead to more happiness.
When we feel unsatisfied, upset with our circumstances, or discontent with our lives, we tend to act outwardly in a way that is not, Pono, not righteous.
If that’s the case then in order feel content and come back towards being Pono, we must have Mahalo.
Mahalo puts our minds on what you already have. When we put out focus on the things we already have, it takes our minds off of the things that brings us discontent. Sometimes we take advantage for what we have because it’s a normal thing. I have a roof over my head, a bed to sleep on, and a strong-beautiful wife. There’s no reason I should feel discontent, but then at times I need a reminder to be Mahalo.
Mahalo allows us to be grateful for ourselves. Look within yourself. Once you find your authentic self, be grateful for person you are. There is no one else like you. You are unique and have a story tell. Be grateful for who you are. If you are discontent with yourself, ask yourself Why do you feel that way? Could there be a source to why you feel that way about yourself?
Mahalo shows humility. No one becomes successful on their own. It takes a humble person to admit their successes and victories came from the assistance of others. When I started, The Aipa Project, in 2010, Steve Shaw of Muscle and Brawn , played a huge role in giving me that nudge to compete in my first bodybuilding competition which lead to me starting this website during my preparation. I will always be grateful.
Mahalo builds up our Mana. Have you ever met a person who was at peace with themselves, smiled often, and had an energy you felt embraced by? People with Mahalo are happier. These people understand the saying that, “It’s not happiness that brings us gratitude. It’s gratitude that brings us happiness.”
I’ve been making more of an effort to be more thankful and showing my gratitude to others who have helped me during my life.
Part of the Ku Lifestyle is making the decision to live with Mahalo. It allows you to look at the good things you have regardless of your circumstances. We may not always be in control of our circumstances, but we are in control of our thoughts.
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