My life has definitely changed quite a bit from 3 months ago.
It’s finally hitting me that I’m actually back and living in Hawaii. It’s been 10 years of me having a date to leave Hawaii again for a long period of time with the unknowing date of my return.
My wife and I joke about how it’s weird for me to be still in Hawaii for this long. It’s been two years since we’ve spent more than a week together, so every once in awhile I’ll tell her, “Ha! I’m still here, tired of me yet?”
“Kinda,” she’d reply.
Another thing that has changed has been work. I love to work. I come from a family of workaholics but have passion for what we do because we want to influence others. But lately, the job search has been long, testing my patience, and making me antsy.
Sometimes I sit lost in my own thoughts and think, “So, what’s next?”
When life changes come, you may find it hard to adjust – it’s different – it’s a whole new routine.
So how do you embrace change?
This is where I went wrong. I didn’t want to embrace the change. I’m happy where I am, back in Hawaii with my wife and family, but I was also focusing on what I loss.
When you focus on what’s loss when change comes you only dig yourself into a hole of self pity and a lesser life than you deserve. So the first thing you must do is change your mindset.
Mindset is everything.
Instead of feeling sorry, living in the glory days, or wishing for the exact same thing to come along – come back down to earth, wipe the tears, throw some dirt on it, and do some push-ups!
It is essential, to do whatever it takes to change your mindset. Jump in a cold shower, slap yourself in the face, go on a run until you can’t run anymore, just do something to get you out of whatever crappy mindset you are in.
Do it now…
Well, to get you more inspired to change your mindset in order to embrace the change – here are 5 reason why change can be good.
1. PERSONAL GROWTH
You should be excited, when new things come along the way you can grow and learn more about yourself and the world. When building a Ku body, you want to become stronger and increase your confidence. Napoleon Hill said, “Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle.” Change usually makes people come out of their comfort zone where it feels nice and warm. But you can’t improve where you aren’t challenged. If you want to reach your full potential it is a MUST to continuously get yourself out of your comfort zone. Get excited!
2. INCREASE CONFIDENCE
Damn straight. Your life just changed. Now what are you going to do about it? That’s right you are going to do #1 – grow. I command you to GROW. Take yourself out of the situation and look at it from the outside. Imagine what you would feel like if you began seeing improvements in your life, you had a new idea and executed it, you went for that job you never imagined getting and you land it, or you start that business you’ve always wanted to. As kids, we constantly used our crazy imaginations and lived them. Become a kid again and watch your confidence boost up.
3. IMPROVISE. ADAPT. OVERCOME
Life is crazy and has the tendency to change quite often. That’s good. It teaches you how to improvise when a new situation approaches. Then you have to adapt to that new situation and as you adapt – you have to overcome. As time goes on and changes come, which they will, you will be prepared to do what you do best. Improvise. Adapt. Overcome.
With everyone book closed, another one opens. When I left the University of Redlands, it was a tough book to close. So tough that I didn’t want to close it so I started reading the index pages. It sucked. I enjoyed working at the university. It took me awhile to open a new book but I am excited about it because the pages are blank and it’s up to me to write it. That’s what you need to feel when you Ho’omaka. Be excited, because not you get to create the life you want.
5. EMBRACING CHANGE IS – KU
Again, I’ll admit it – I had a hard time embracing change. But what I’ve learned in doing so is that is has helped be continue on my way towards being Ku. I have regained focused on my training and set a goal to be stepping back on stage in April 2014, I’m no longer feel bad for myself for leaving the university (I learned so much and met so much great people), and I’m not moving forward and planning on growing The Aipa Project like C.R.A.Z.Y. Hope you are ready for the ride.